Baby Daddy Syndrome

I think this is one for the guys.

Please just so my pretty little head can wrap itself around the notion, could one of you please explain exactly why you think that having a child out of wedlock is an achievement coz I really don’t gerrit.

My cousin was on the phone with someone the other day and she, being the disrespectful little heffer she is (no offence ama), was busting jokes with this guy who happens to be a few years older than her. Now my cousins humour can easily be confused with insult if aren’t used to it so I wasn’t surprised when at some point said gentleman insisted (jokingly of course) that she show him some respect because he is some body’s father....

Wait, reeeeeewwwwiiiiiiiinnnnnnnnddddddddddd....stop!

According to this fine gentleman here, getting your girlfriend pregnant by accident and then accepting the child due to lack of choice makes you a respectable male in this day and age. I don’t know about any girls reading this blog but I think I didn’t get the memo. As far as I know having an accidental baby out of wedlock in this day and age only indicates one of two things (or both) you are ignorant towards the simple thing we call contraceptive or you have super powered sperm that breaks through all of the modern engineering that goes into condom manufacturing and earnestly, I can’t say I can give you kudos for either.

It’s a different scenario if say, you were with a long term girlfriend/fiancée or even better, if you had actually gone through the socially (and Godly) accepted procedure of marrying the woman that had your child (preferably before she had said child) then we could discuss how noble and respectable you are. At this point in time all your situation says to me is that you got a woman you obviously didn’t love very much (or else you’d still be with her) pregnant by accident (due to your incapability of using a condom or any of the other umpteen types of contraception out there) and are now attempting to claim respect by the means of letting everyone know you are a father. If anybody with a similar mind set as this brother I am describing is reading this post, I plead with you in the name the lord that died on Calvary for your and my sins...go get your balls snipped!

Don’t get me wrong guys there’s nothing wrong with being a proud father. It’s actually kinda cute but don’t demand respect on the simple grounds of being a father. It’s a bit like a hen telling you not to slaughter it coz she laid you an egg. If said hen refused to incubate the egg for it to hatch and also refused to nurture such egg for it to grow into an adult chicken then said hen is going into my soup because it hasn’t really been of any benefit for me other than put another egg into my basket. Putting a child into this world is irrelevant if you aren’t there for them or if you aren’t assuming your parental duties. The guy I’m referring to in this post is actually a good father so I do give him some kudos but it shouldn’t be done for the sake of respect. It should be done because you love your child.

Its kinda weird coz then you also get the kind of guys to whom being a father adds no value to their life at all. Personally, I don’t get them either. How can you not see the pride and joy there is in being a father? Yes I am going to be very two faced here and criticise both extremes.

I am tired of men making me feel like a nutter because I feel that one of my greatest achievements in life would be to birth and nurture a virtuous child some day. Some guys just don’t get how special having a child is. How fulfilling it is when a child calls you mummy or daddy. I can only talk from the female point of view but I know from my male friends that their feeling is similar.

Anyway I’m going to stop here with this topic because it’s a very sensitive one with a lot of grey areas but I just wanted to put the questions (and my opinions) out there for anyone else who might have been thinking about similar things. If you have any comments feel free to let me know.

Oh wait, erm,  i’m just listening to stay jay ft mugeez new tune ‘my babe’...i haven’t made a verdict on the actual song yet (even though i love me some mugeez) but is it me or is stay jay trying to force some bass into his voice in the song? Oh, odo...please don’t do that wai wo b3 y3 aaa na style no 3gyai wo. M3 ny3 saa. :P

Laterz xx