NEW MUSIC AND VIDEOS

Quick update on whats been going on in the GH music industry.

Many of you may have heard R2bees tune 'odo' already. it's been making tidal waves all across the globe, as a matter of fact, i was walking to the shop the other day and this dude was blasting the tune out of his car.
i must say the car was a bit of a disgrace to the song but, oh well, we cant have it all can we now.
Anyway, i personally like the song. Even though i would be lying if i said it was my favourite tune to come from the west african super stars i can comfortably admit that it's a good song to listen to casually.
The lyrics of the song are quite sweet (for those who dont know 'odo' means love) which i found a bit weird as i'm not used to hearing the boys rap 'romantically', especially Paedae, but in their usual manner, they made it work.
My favourite aspect of this song is the fact that the beat is actually hi-life. it has a real old school vibe to it which i adore. Killbeatz being Killbeatz i think he did a good job on this one. everytime i listen to this i just want to whip out my white hankerchief and sway my hips, salsa style.
there isnt a video to the song yet but you can listen to it on youtube and download the mp3 on http://www.themonteoz.com/2012/08/11/r2bees-odo-mp3-download/.

Ok so that's that but today i've actually got something else up my sleeve too. Turns out Paedae and his clan have been real busy recently because, not long after they made our hearts melt with odo, they've also jsut dropped the video for 'life (walaahi)' and this, i must say, is DEFINITELY a banger. If this song doesn't get worn out on airplay i'll gladly consider myself deaf.
It's these kinda tunes that make the hot girls crush hard on Killbeatz even though you hardly ever get to see him in videos or hear his voice. Although a lot of his beats have similar elements he seems to have mastered the art of making a beat that will by all means necessary make it impossible for you not to want to move. There aren't many GH producersup to his caliber nowadays but i think he knows that.
The video to the song was directed by OJ (@bigojfilms) who's a big name in the industry and has worked with Sarkodie and Stay Jay. due to the passion for his work OJ usually comes out with videos of top quality and this one is no exception although i must say, if i should criticize anything, the concepts and the effects used in the excecution are a bit samey if you look at this video and the videos of the previously mentioned artistes which were directed by OJ but that does not in anyway deduct from the quality of the video in my opinion.
The video starrs the boys and friends, including ToGH entity Nana Yaw Boakye, in different settings, some that didn't look like they were staged. The video has a 'in the life of...' reality show/docu feel to it which i like.
In no way is the video pretentious and totally represents the song and it's title. it's defibitely a masterpiece so without furthe adue i present to you 'life (walaahi)' by R2bees. Don't hesitate to follow them on twitter @R2bees

FOKN BOIS @ HOOTANANNY

So this little review is totally overdue as I saw the event on Friday night but in all honesty, I just had to let the excitement wear off before I wrote anything. After all we want to keep it objective don’t we :P so I start off with saying I am still utterly in infatuation with the Kubolor and gladly accept the groupie title any day any time (the thing about being objective was said out of the depth of a sarcastic mind...it’s my blog so I say what I like *shrugs*). Any man that makes me laugh that much, is that weird, and (oddly) such a gentleman deserves a ride or die groupie lol.

I went to see the boys on Friday the 10^th of august as an impromptu night out after realising they were performing at a place called Hootenanny in Brixton. The event was called ‘wormfood’ and the line up consisted of about 4 acts I believe, including a German group that played some REAL controversial stuff, talking about they wish they end up in hell...ok, but you're on your own, mate! I wasn’t surprised that Wanlov and Mensa would perform there as I know hootenanny to embrace any and everything weird and wonderful. The crowd that goes there might not be particularly extensive but they appreciate good music even if it is different and lets me honest there is nothing ‘normal’ about Wanlov and Mensa's most recent, FOKN with ewe, album from which they performed several songs.

The stage set up was minimal, no fancy drapes or lighting, just the average stuff really but the thing I love about hootenanny is the fact that the people make the atmosphere. The last time I was there (to watch a friend perform at an open mic night) the ambiance was very calm, collected and soothing. The audience tends to reflect the acts on display for each night. Considering that the FOKN BOIS and a lot of the other acts relate to a younger (slightly wilder) group of people, this was reflected in the audience a little. Mind you I’m not saying there weren’t some mature guests enjoying the music too and I tell no lie when I say some seemed to enjoy the performance even more than the young folk. In terms of the boys’ get up... just the usual. Mensa was in a casual African-like printed top and shorts whilst Wanlov sported an international outfit that hailed from Nigeria to Senegal to Ghana and a ‘skirt’ that hailed from Kenya I believe. I was slightly tempted but knew better than to lift it up too high whilst I studied the patterns. It was very eye catching and I guess I don’t need to mention the fact that he wasn’t wearing shoes. I actually kept flinching for him as people stepped inches away from his foot with their hard soled shoes but I guess the man is used to it.

Anyway, the performance.  Much to my amusement (they really make you feel like they’re performing just for you, for your individual entertainment) they started off the show with sets of press ups and I must say from what I saw they both don’t seem to be in the worst of shapes. As the excitement grew with their little stunt people that had dissipated away from the stage after the previous act gradually started crowding around again and that’s when the Kubolor introduced them as being most famous in china. You got three guesses for what song they performed after that intro. As a matter of fact they did well to kind of introduce each song they performed and even translated the chorus to sextra terrestrial sex so that the people in the audience that weren’t Ghanaian or didn’t understand twi would not feel left out.

I think my favourite moments from the performance was firstly when they sang ‘we want to be white’ not only do I love that song because of the obvious sarcastic nature which I relate to so well but also because they switched it up a bit by having the band play a hi life style beat. Oh I didn’t mention the live band before did I? I apologize, especially because I think it brought a whole new vibe to the performance. The guy on the guitar who I found out to be Ryan Ansah is actually amazing. I also noticed that the band was very multi cultural as Ansah is part Ghanaian part English, I believe, the drummer looked far eastern and the guy on the key board looked European. It portrayed one of the reasons I love the FOKN BOIS so much ...they want to make good music regardless of where the influences come from and they’ve got messages to put out there that is relevant to everyone. They don’t care if you're white black or yellow, they’re just here to address and confront the bull crap in this world in a way that either makes you love em or hate em, either way you’re bound to listen and laugh at some point. Sextra terrestrial sex was also great simply because of the soulful mellow nature of the song. Only Wanlov and Mensa can talk about acid sweating aliens and make you want to rush home to your man and make babies. It’s actually crazy! I think the highlight for me though was when they performed pinch and had Tawiah (protégé of Mark Ronson) come on stage to put a little vim into it and trust me she did. You can check Tawiah out on YouTube or on twitter (@tawiahmusic).

All in all I had a really great night socialising with these amazing artistes and getting to watch them live for the first time. Below are a few videos and pics of the show and make sure you follow them on twitter if you like them (@foknbois)

Also don’t forget MYHH tees are coming soon and I’ve already got pre-orders so don’t miss out ;) 

Wanlov and Mensa doing press ups

Famous in china

Wanlov and I

FOKN with Mensa 

His feet are bare! its not a lie!

The dynamic duo just before action

ME Y3 HIP HOP GOES ABROKYI

Soooooooooooo as some of you may have noticed i have been ranting about this new brand on my fb page. The said brand is called Me Y3 Hip Hop and i am not only hyping because i am a hopeless groupie but also because it happens to be headed by a good friend of mine Joey Chase (@joey_chase) and his partner Nas. They also happen to be the joint masterminds behind Ill Mechanix. On top of this...waaaaaaaiiiittttt ffooooooorrrriiiiiitttttt....i happen to have the honour of being cut in on the deal. As of now you are reading the Blog rantings of the brand sparkling new, exclusive distributor of Me Y3 Hip Hop merchandise in the United Kingdom. Sounds more glamorous than it is coz it basically means i'm going to have to bust my ass to meet sales and marketing targets (blurgh) nevertheless it's an honour to be part of something so groundbreaking, especially as it's all coming out of the motherland.

Here's the official info about the expansion...

ME Y3 HIP HOP GOES ABROAD 

So after a lengthy wait ME Y3 HIP HOP is finally hitting international shores.
ME Y3 HIP HOP has hit Ghana real hard with music industry entities such as EFYA, LADY JAY, VERSE RICO and STONE BWOY being spotted in the iconic original ME Y3 HIP HOP t-shirts in all places from exclusive events to daily studio sessions. Not too long ago modern pioneer in the Ghanaian hip hop scene J TOWN even went as far as to feature a specially designed graphic tee in one of his videos and of course Mr. MEY3HIPHOP, Joey Chase ( @joey_chase , popular name when it comes to anything creative) himself pretty much sleeps and wakes in them. This is how hot these shirts are on the gold coast and thus there’s no wonder that management have decided to expand. 

We want every one, Ghanaian or not, at home or in the Diaspora to get a taste of what it feels to wear a ME Y3 HIP HOP tee with pride. To be able to help raise awareness for the love of hip hop, especially but not only that made in Ghana. ME Y3 HIP HOP is not just about apparel but it’s about a way of life and that is what is being shared... ME Y3 HIP HOP is not just a cool phrase it’s a way of life but obviously it helps when you live looking good. 

The initial campaign will only involve the line of original dual tone printed tee shirts but designs for new products such as fitted caps and printed lighters are in the pipeline and will be available internationally too. 

Tees come in all variations of sizes and are unisex so can be rocked by both girls and guys that feel to put some spice into their wardrobe, it just depends on what colours you go for.  

The international expansion will commence in the UK where the first original ME Y3 HIP HOP tees will be available by Monday the 13th of august. Distribution will be done exclusively by AJ Manu (@marshmallow_AJ) so get at her as soon as possible for info on pre-orders and introductory deals. You can also find more info on the ME Y3 HIP HOP facebook page or by dropping AJ a message.

Anyway from the 13th of august the UK will have access to the original Me Y3 Hip Hop tees but only by contacting me on facebook ( Adjoa AJ-Bliss Manu) or twitter (@marshamallow_AJ), preorders can also be made. There's a facebook page aswell where you can check out the designs and read more about MYHH aswell as follow the tumbler (http://meyehiphop.tumblr.com/).

Make sure you support you support the cause (and my pocket....and your wardrobe) by copping a tee when they drop. i'll be counting down on fb so watch this space honeys ;)

Man’s war against woman’s best friend

So i was having a discussion with a ‘friend’ the other day and I explained that when I’m married, I would very much appreciate if my husband would gimme some jiggy at least once every day, depending on our schedules and exhaustion levels, of course, and he was oddly surprised.

I’ve always said that once I am married and sex has become more of a bonding mechanism than a filthy measure of lust I am going to make the most of it so I was surprised that my friend didn’t agree. In his opinion, having sex every day is just way to tiring and since he has some kind of personal vendetta against quickies he just hasn’t got the strength to be making marathon length love to his wife every night (or morning/afternoon depending on what you prefer). After vigorous analysis of the situation (i.e. 15 minutes of mouthy banter later) I came to understand his point and decided to make a suggestion to solve the issue at hand; let’s say I was to marry said friend and he didn’t supply me with my required dose of sex as and when due then it wouldn’t be that much of an issue provided I am allowed to put ‘alternative gadgets’ into use.

Before you ask, yes, I do mean a vibrator. I know as a Christian girl its kinda taboo borderline grave sin to own one but in my defence it was a gift from an ex and it was of good use during my mad hatter days. I haven’t used or even seen the thing in years but I’m pretty sure its somewhere amongst the stuff I got in storage so if I was to ever need it it’s there. Problem is my friend (who, I should have mentioned earlier is male and of African descent) almost dislocated his jaw at the fact that I suggested ‘going behind my husband’s back and pleasing myself’. Like really?

So I thought about it in a little bit more depth but still couldn’t justify why any man would be so selfish as to deprive in such an outrageous (and mind you, unnecessary) manner.

After all if you think about it men masturbate all the time. As much as they hate to admit it they do. And I’m pretty sure they still do even when they are married. As a Christian I’m a bit on the fence as to whether masturbation is right or wrong outside of marriage because some would describe it as a form of fornication especially as usually when you’re doing the do you’d have to do some serious imagining and thinking of fornication alone is a sin but is the same the case when you’re married?

At the end of the day if you think about it I am saving my marriage a lot of strain coz God knows I won’t be a happy bunny if I have to take my current deprivation into ‘till death do us part’ so rather than finding me a sexy toy boy who has more stamina than my husband wouldn’t be safer, wiser, less stressful and most importantly less sinful to delve into a little DIY. Wouldn’t it just keep everyone happy? Mind you I understand that talking from this point of view it may look like I put way too much emphasis is on the sexual part of marriage but at the end of the day it is very important. I know I will have other opportunities to spend quality time with my husband and I look forward to them also but at the end of the day when a girl had needs she gots needs!

I wonder whether men feel like you’re undermining their capability or manhood by doing it yourself. I don’t really see it that way though. If you cook someone a meal but they want seconds because the quantity you gave them wasn’t enough, does that take anything away from the quality of the food you gave them? No. Even if they have they have to go somewhere else to quench their surplus hunger with inferior food all that proves is that they’ve got a healthy appetite not tat your food wasn’t good. Same way a woman’s sexual activities aren’t necessarily a reflection of her partner’s ability but more so of her sex drive and every woman is different from the next.

Also, men need to learn to live with repercussions. You lot are always talking about how we girls shouldn’t dress provocatively and not expect to be hit on. Same way you shouldn’t act stupid when your wife pounces on you every other hour if you’ve been walking round the house top less showing off your tout chest and abs and exposing them tight muscley calves and....ooops sorry, got carried away. Anyway my point is that after careful consideration I don’t see why guys should feel threatened by us girls and our little toys.

Oh before I end I just want to tell all those that have been asking; yes, I have noticed that my posts tend to share a little too much info and are sometimes very personal. It’s my blog, I wrote it honey. In my defence (that which I do not find necessary but will give anyway because I happen to be PC like that) I just love to share my experiences. People need to realise that not everything I write about is about me. When I discuss an issue I like to take it from all view points, even the ones that do not apply to me personally. The reason I talk about relationships and sex a lot is because people always seem to ask me for advice on that subject but no one wants to talk about it openly, especially from a church chick’s view point. I just feel like if I make one person out there think twice about absolutely anything then I have done my job. ;)

Spiders, taking out the trash and TV licensing: reasons why I can’t stay single forever

So a lot of my friends have probably heard me say at some point that I don’t need a man for anything that I couldn’t care less whether I got married provided I get to have kids...yeah, girlfriends I’m really sorry but ...I LIED! I lied BAD!

On this day the 26^th June 2012 I (reluctantly) admit that I (will...probably...in the future) need a man just as much as any other girl, if not more. The clues as to why is pretty much in the title to this post but since I love to talk I may as well explain.

I don’t like spiders. They disgust me. They’ve got eight legs, eight eyes and some of those creepy things can actually jump. Just thinking of em is making me shudder. They are just nasty! What has that got to do with my love life? I’m glad you asked. Well, as mentioned, I do not like the aesthetics of spiders or the fact that they have the capability of crawling in your ears and gnawing at your brain (it may be hear-say but who am I to discredit any sort of gossip), however, these little advocates of the devil seem to insist on setting up camp in my bedroom during summer months. I am all for being at one with nature but there is no way I am spending a night sleeping, knowing full well there is an arachnid in my bed room, hence why I need a man to act as my personal pest control. Preferably he won’t be the kind that’ll find it funny to try and chase me with the corpse of a dead spider because all that will happen is that I’ll end up crying silent tears in a corner whilst trying to rock myself to sleep (yes, THAT is how much spider freak me out) but essentially I just need someone to make em disappear. Any man can get at least an ounce of honour from me just by saving me from spiders, as a matter of fact I would be even better if he also took over the task of risk prevention i.e. making sure that I don’t see, hear or anticipate having to confront a spider. This might include changing the channel when spiders come on TV. Ripping out ‘artistic’ ads from my magazines if they feature any creepy crawlies and/or learning how to fell trees coz I’m not having any growing close to any of the windows in my future home (well, that’s not just coz of the spiders, I refuse to give my future teenage daughter any possible means of vacating her bedroom to attend parties I have forbidden her to attend). So that’s that.

Taking out the trash is a man’s job. I don’t remember when I have ever taken the actual bin out (I don’t mind the recycling) on time and not tried to squeeze in as much as possible just to avoid that nasty stench that meets you when you take of the bin lid *gags* that ish is just vile. I also happen to be a little ocd about pathogens i.e. bacteria, fungi so it is a bit of a hassle to take out the trash out of the bin, wash my hands so I can touch the door knob, take the trash out, walk back in leaving the door ajar, wash my hands again so I can close my front door and then putting a new bag in the bin and washing my hands again for good measure coz I would have had to touch the lid of the bin again. So all in all you must agree with me that having a man to take out the trash just makes more sense. Especially if my life ever jolts out of this stand still and I actually have to be time efficient again in the near future.

Now, TV licence. If you’ve never lived in Britain you won’t get this but our royal majesty (as much as I love her) still seems to turn a blind eye towards the fact that we get billed for watching TV. Oh and it’s not only for watching TV ON a TV but also if you watch live TV on a laptop or smart phone. I think it’s just above £100 a year, I may be wrong but my ignorance is the exact reason as to why I need someone else in my household to deal with that nonsense. Can’t TV just be the one thing I do not associate to a bill? I think I deserve that much.

I’m sure that many girls agree with me on the above points, if you’ve been to uni you’ll most probably have a sour relationship with the TV licence people anyway, but to put jokes aside I have come to realise more and more recently that I am not actually the independent island I always portray to be. As much as I hate having people around me 24/7 and I enjoy my privacy I know that sooner or later, preferably sooner, I will need someone to help me lead this mad life I’m living. I’ve never argued about the fact that I would be perfect right hand (wo)man to any gentleman but I never really think of what they can do for me very much. Other than the obvious materialistic benefits of having a man around I have noticed how much someone’s company alone can improve your quality of life. Being celibate and all I decided not to date completely because I was trying to avoid temptation...trust me its worked. I deleted the number of my booty call and stopped giving out my number to guys even if I knew they were just trying to be friends (we all how that goes) and as much as I’ve got ‘needs’ I guess the thing I miss most is just spending time with someone I really like. I still don’t think I could date anyone unless I know they have made the same commitment towards celibacy as me but at least now I know that I DO need a man like they always say and I know I ain't heartless lol.

Mind you, this won’t keep me from fronting. When my family goes off on one about me getting married first out of my cousins I will reject the notion. I am too used to my image and if anyone dare refer me to this blog post I WILL deny everything said LOL. Just kidding...

Laters x

NO PANTY DAY

Ok so what should I talk about today...oh I know, ‘no panty day’ -_-

First of all can somebody tell me who comes up with these ridiculous ‘holidays’?

I very much suspect uber facts but I’m pretty sure they must be getting the ideas from a particular individual. Twitter has pretty much become the number platform to share any sort of useless rumour and it will spread like wildfire. I guess it goes to show how effective it is. Wonder how many people would retweet and talk about it if I was to tweet ‘Jesus loves you’ though but that’s an issue for another day.

No panty day. LOL. I saw this and just shook my head. Don’t get me wrong I have nothing against people who decide to go ‘commando’ as a matter of fact I support the notion to a certain extend.

I was actually reading this pastor’s message about marital sex and the lack of discussion about this in Christian marriages. The message was as follows:

Sex according to Pastor Agrippa Khathide

Sex according to Pastor Agrippa Khathide  

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“A lot of people don’t associate sex with God – they associate it with Satan and darkness, as if sex weren’t holy The Bible is explicit when it comes to sex. Sex is holy within marriage, and there is no prescribed style nowhere in the Bible does it say that the missionary position is the only sexual style.

Not discussing sex in a relationship leads to divorce!!!!!. Pastor Khathide has counselled women who’ve complained: my husband treats me as if I were his brother. There was one who told him: I am tired of getting sex fortnightly, like a salary. Khathide told her she was lucky to be getting sex fortnightly, since some wives only get it on big days, like elections.

Many husbands leave their wives to seek sexual pleasures in Hill brow. Have you ever asked yourself what those wives have that you don’t? Wives have become very frigid and even sleep with their panties. If you’re a married woman, you should sleep naked and let your bum touch your husband.

Today you find men going out of their way to get a glimpse of a vagina. They page through magazines and even go to lingerie departments in stores hoping to see what’s hidden under panties, because their wives hide it from them.

Marriage is about being free with your body in front of your partner.

A woman should parade naked and do some modelling to tempt her husband.

There are many married women who don’t know what their husbands’ penises look like. They only feel it when he enters her. They’ve never touched it, let alone see it, because the husband switches off the lights before undressing. A penis is a wife’s toy – she is supposed to play with it.

He blames couples for not making time for sex and complaining about being tired after a day’s work. You find many couples who’ve been sexually starved for years. God created sex for procreation and also for pleasure. You can’t marry and not have a good time in bed.

WHO SAID YOU CAN ONLY HAVE SEX AT NIGHT?

Why can’t you drive home during lunch and have a quickie with your wife?

We’re all equal in sex – it’s not just about a woman satisfying a man. You have to satisfy each other. Have you ever seen a woman who has been satisfied? Have you noticed how she glows and becomes energetic?

May the Lord Bless you. This is the “Whole Truth,
Nothing but the Truth” so God Help Us from the Beginning”

The phrase ‘I second that’ is an understatement.

I never really get why some Christian women are so frigid and don’t like talking about sex with their husbands. If you’ve actually been a god (as we all should be) then this is the time for you to experiment, live out the naughty little thoughts you had to pray for forgiveness about, only that now, you won’t be judged for it by anyone including Jesus. Sex according to the bible is not just there for the sake of reproduction but also for the enjoyment of both a husband and a wife (your OWN husband/wife I should add...there is no ‘la borrow’ in this matter) so why would you not as a married woman seize the chance to show a little bit of ‘extra flesh’ for your husband today.

I am not saying all women should walk around without their knickers on in public but if you’re not the impulsive kind of woman then this day is the perfect excuse for you to meet you hubby at the door without no draws on... any other clothing is also optional ;)

We actually had a discussion about sex before marriage yesterday at my midweek church service group and trust me I am not implying that people should go out there and expose themselves or put themselves in a vulnerable position. Not saying that at all. I’m just saying that sometimes (although I am not necessarily talking out of experience so don’t hold me to it) having sex with the same person the same way may become a little tedious so I just think we ladies should grab any and every opportunity to make it a little more exciting as long as we do it in the way God intended it and we aren’t sinning in the process. After all eve was naked until she felt she needed to hide her sin under clothes made from leaves. If you can’t go commando for your own hubby then honey I suggest you start telling him what you’re hiding.

I was also told that, apparently tomorrow, The 23^rd of June 2012, will consequently be named ‘eat a p***y day’ *sigh*.  Again I can’t hide the fact that married couples need to be taking advantage of these days but really? You had time to sit down and dedicate a whole 24hours to that? Kmt these people need help...urgently!

Personally, I have vowed myself to celibacy until I am married anyway so I won’t be joining in on the ‘festivities’ but I know that even though I am not being promiscuous or encouraging anyone to do so, I am still going to get some criticism for voicing some of my opinions so openly.

All I can really say (not necessarily in my defence because bottomless criticism does not faze me) is that as a Christian I don’t see why I shouldn’t be allowed to talk about sex. Sex is just as much a part of life as pretty much anything else nowadays. We are confronted with it almost everyday.

Don’t people think that it is a better thing for Christian kids to discus sex and thus, get the relevant information they need to know (be it information on the science, emotions or God’s will about sex) rather than us keeping stum?  You how they say that you can’t talk and listen at the same time, it’s true. If we are not allowed to voice our opinions then:

1.                 1.  We will be in the position to listen to all the nonsense that friends and the media will try t teach us which is not appropriate.

2.                  2. If we have distorted perceptions about sex then this will never become apparent. We will live all our lives thinking a certain way about the topic which may be totally false

To me the second point is most concern. I for one had a construed idea of sex for a very long time. I always thought that if I was with a guy and he wanted sex I had to give it to him, it wasn’t something I was to enjoy or utilise as a bonding mechanism. During that entire period I believed that sex wasn’t meant for the woman but just for the man. A way to please him.

That is exactly why I am not a virgin and I am not ashamed to admit it because

1.                      1.     Jesus loves me anyway

2.                       2.     If I hadn’t already tasted the sin and if I didn’t already know how much it took for me to give it up then being celibate wouldn’t be that much of a big deal to me

When I got saved in the summer time last year I promised God I was going to give some things up for him. I didn’t really specify what at the time because I wasn’t sure yet but I eventually started off with my piercings then in November 2011 I gave up sex. I ironically I was in a relationship at the time so it wasn’t great timing on my part but ‘God works in mysterious ways’. I have been celibate for over 7 months and I am actually pretty proud of myself. Trust me it is NOT easy at all! Anyway, my point is that actually I didn’t give up sex for God but for my own good.  I had ended up with such a negative/wrong/unholy view towards sex it was actually NECESSARY for me to give it up in order for me to have a better understanding of God’s purpose for the act.

All in all I guess my point is that the ‘no panty day’ is total bogus but if you can make something good come out of it then hey...YOLO!

Baby Daddy Syndrome

I think this is one for the guys.

Please just so my pretty little head can wrap itself around the notion, could one of you please explain exactly why you think that having a child out of wedlock is an achievement coz I really don’t gerrit.

My cousin was on the phone with someone the other day and she, being the disrespectful little heffer she is (no offence ama), was busting jokes with this guy who happens to be a few years older than her. Now my cousins humour can easily be confused with insult if aren’t used to it so I wasn’t surprised when at some point said gentleman insisted (jokingly of course) that she show him some respect because he is some body’s father....

Wait, reeeeeewwwwiiiiiiiinnnnnnnnddddddddddd....stop!

According to this fine gentleman here, getting your girlfriend pregnant by accident and then accepting the child due to lack of choice makes you a respectable male in this day and age. I don’t know about any girls reading this blog but I think I didn’t get the memo. As far as I know having an accidental baby out of wedlock in this day and age only indicates one of two things (or both) you are ignorant towards the simple thing we call contraceptive or you have super powered sperm that breaks through all of the modern engineering that goes into condom manufacturing and earnestly, I can’t say I can give you kudos for either.

It’s a different scenario if say, you were with a long term girlfriend/fiancée or even better, if you had actually gone through the socially (and Godly) accepted procedure of marrying the woman that had your child (preferably before she had said child) then we could discuss how noble and respectable you are. At this point in time all your situation says to me is that you got a woman you obviously didn’t love very much (or else you’d still be with her) pregnant by accident (due to your incapability of using a condom or any of the other umpteen types of contraception out there) and are now attempting to claim respect by the means of letting everyone know you are a father. If anybody with a similar mind set as this brother I am describing is reading this post, I plead with you in the name the lord that died on Calvary for your and my sins...go get your balls snipped!

Don’t get me wrong guys there’s nothing wrong with being a proud father. It’s actually kinda cute but don’t demand respect on the simple grounds of being a father. It’s a bit like a hen telling you not to slaughter it coz she laid you an egg. If said hen refused to incubate the egg for it to hatch and also refused to nurture such egg for it to grow into an adult chicken then said hen is going into my soup because it hasn’t really been of any benefit for me other than put another egg into my basket. Putting a child into this world is irrelevant if you aren’t there for them or if you aren’t assuming your parental duties. The guy I’m referring to in this post is actually a good father so I do give him some kudos but it shouldn’t be done for the sake of respect. It should be done because you love your child.

Its kinda weird coz then you also get the kind of guys to whom being a father adds no value to their life at all. Personally, I don’t get them either. How can you not see the pride and joy there is in being a father? Yes I am going to be very two faced here and criticise both extremes.

I am tired of men making me feel like a nutter because I feel that one of my greatest achievements in life would be to birth and nurture a virtuous child some day. Some guys just don’t get how special having a child is. How fulfilling it is when a child calls you mummy or daddy. I can only talk from the female point of view but I know from my male friends that their feeling is similar.

Anyway I’m going to stop here with this topic because it’s a very sensitive one with a lot of grey areas but I just wanted to put the questions (and my opinions) out there for anyone else who might have been thinking about similar things. If you have any comments feel free to let me know.

Oh wait, erm,  i’m just listening to stay jay ft mugeez new tune ‘my babe’...i haven’t made a verdict on the actual song yet (even though i love me some mugeez) but is it me or is stay jay trying to force some bass into his voice in the song? Oh, odo...please don’t do that wai wo b3 y3 aaa na style no 3gyai wo. M3 ny3 saa. :P

Laterz xx